Substack Slander & Other Acts of Anti-Connection

Written from a dark alley, probably avoiding someone I know.

So, today I am welcoming in my new era - I wish I didn’t have to call it something - because that is where this post is going. The New Era is that of no expectation. I am not going to promise myself or you (mostly myself) that I will write every week for a year, every Sunday for a month, or even if I am frank, that I will write another post after this one. I get the point of setting goals, and targets for oneself, however, it turns out, after 29 years I have realised I am not a target sort of person.

What I am though, is a quotes sort of person — and I was extremely amused to find that, when googling ‘quotes about expectations’ that the first one to appear came from the notable, renowned quotist……Ryan Reynolds.

‘‘ When you have expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment’’

I’m not sure whether he was referring to Wrexham or his upcoming film Animal Friends with Jason Momoa (PSA: both good humans in my book)

DISCLAIMER: In case more than one person is reading this - I am in fact a fan of both the latter.

So this no expectations era of mine: will that mean I feel no disappointment? I am going to try and do the unthinkable. Not take note of the likes, reads, shares, comments (I wish) that this post, or any of the ones that may follow (or not!) accumulate. I am writing because I miss it, and want to get back into the groove.

Substack Slander: I am not going to write to find a community.

I wish I was, but alas, it leads me to no avail - simply liking other people’s posts and never doing my own. Commenting ‘I love books and am trying to find myself too’ on people’s bullet point lists of reasons why we should connect. In real life, I will cross roads, dodge buses, hide in dark alley ways to AVOID connection - even from people I actually know. So in the whole staying true to myself vein of life - I am not writing to connect.

I am SURE there must be more people on here like me, writing not to connect. LITERALLY the reason we are sitting in rooms typing is because we do not want to speak to people.

So, this is most me I have ever been online - anti-social and lacking expectations.